Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Guest Post & Giveaway with Margaret Dilloway for How to Be an American Housewife

Yesterday, I reviewed How to Be an American Housewife a captivating debut novel by Margaret Dilloway. This novel highlights the conflicts between cultures and how to adapt to them, the challenges between Japanese mothers and their American born daughters and coming to terms with hidden secrets and family discoveries. Personally, I loved this novel, the main characters were full of strength and character and I enjoyed the focus on the mother daughter relationship. That is something that most women can relate to and for me I could especially relate to the experience of having a foreign born mother. As I shared in my review (you can read it HERE), my mother was German born and raised and came to America after marrying my father who was stationed there in the Air Force. She barely spoke English and had to learn our culture and ways and adjust to a new family of different background while leaving behind her family of origin. Mothers who come from different cultures have their own experiences and beliefs to share with their daughters and families. I didn't appreciate everything when I was younger, especially when my mom served soft boiled eggs in egg cups for breakfast. Later, I learned to appreciate more of  the cultural differences, but I still don't care for soft boiled eggs. Although, I do love German Goulash and German potato salad.

I'm thrilled to welcome Margaret Dilloway, author of How to Be an American Housewife to share a wonderful guest post with everyone today. Margaret will share her thoughts about parenting.


My mom taught me not to use processed foods. She was proud of making things from scratch and always had to serve a vegetable and grain with the family dinner; she taught me not to serve two starches together. Everything from a birthday cake to mashed potatoes had to be homemade. I am not quite so strict, especially since boxed foods have improved so much, but I definitely hear her saying in my head, “Mash your own potatoes! It won’t take much more time.”

She was also very conscious of waste, and taught me how to save rainwater for later use (not that there’s much in San Diego), how to hang laundry, how to compost. It made me aware of conservation as a thing to do because it’s responsible and frugal.

In terms of interaction with children, I am really not much like my mother, and that is a fairly deliberate choice. I heard on the radio the other day that in Japanese culture, the mother will criticize the child because success is expected and shortcomings must be overcome. I remember the criticisms stinging more than helping, though, so if I have to correct my child, I tend to explain why more than my mother did and be gentler with my words.

                                                    ~Margaret Dilloway

Thanks to Margaret Dilloway for sharing her thoughts on parenting and how we can learn from our parents but we can also deliberately choose to be different than our parents. Visit Margaret's Blog, American Housewife, HERE.


I am excited to tell you that you have the opportunity to win your own copy of  How to Be an American Housewife! Thanks to the publisher, Penguin and TLC Book Tours, they have offered to send a copy of the book to One lucky winner!

All you have to do is leave a comment, make sure to include your email address so that I can contact you if you are a winner. Otherwise, I won't be able to include your name in the drawing. Open to US & Canada only, No PO Boxes. Books will ship directly to the winners from the publisher.

Enter by August 14, 2010.


  1. This has been on my old wishlist for a few weeks now since I first learned of it. Sounds like a great story!


  2. Hi Bonnie--I'd love to be entered into the giveaway. I really wish that my grandparents had shared more of their culture after they moved to Canada but mostly they just tried to assimilate. Love me some German Potato Salad, though! :)

    trishsreadingnook at gmail dot com

  3. Hi Bonnie
    I would love to win this book. My mom was also from Germany and didn't speak the language. My e-mail is:


  4. So many fantastic reviews for this novel. I feel like I have to read it!


  5. The first part sounds a lot like my own mom! I'd love to be entered in this contest. milou2ster(at)

  6. I have often wished that I could go back and be more gentle with my words. Parenting is a work in progress!!! :)

  7. it sounds great
    thanks for the opportunity to win it
    diana mack

  8. enjoyed your review...thanks for the opportunity to read this wonderful novel :)

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  9. The storyline is a super one and I would really like to win and read this novel.

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  10. I would love to win this book. Even if your parents aren't from a different country, there is always a generational culture clash.

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  11. Looks like a great read - Thanks for the opportunity!

  12. I'd really love to read this book. Thanks for the possibility.


  13. Please count me in.

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  14. I'd love to read this book. Thanks for the giveaway.
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  15. I must admit, I am a make it from scratch kinda gal. I love books that show life from a different perspective. Am looking forward to reading How To Be An American Housewife, one way or the other.

  16. I am super intrigued by this book...the title catches me and the content looks...interesting...would love to read it!

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  17. Please enter me!


  18. Thank you for including me in the giveaway. =)
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  19. This looks great :) please include me.

  20. I've read a lot of very positive reviews of this one!


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  21. This sounds like a great book. Please count me in. Thank you!

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  22. This sounds really good! Please enter me. Thank you!
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  23. Please enter me this has been on my wish list for a while

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